'Your wife sounds like a right royal pain': Wife insists picky eater husband to take half her food whenever she orders something she doesn't like, he gets fed up with her request

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  • A woman feeds a man food from a tray on their bed.
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  • Am I in the wrong for refusing to share my food with my wife after she repeatedly orders food she doesn't like?

    We're a working couple in our late 20s. Often come home late, around 7 PM, so we regularly dine out, like 2 times a week. Our country has hundreds of dishes, so we're never out of options. I prefer ordering familier items and try something new only when it's looks too tempting. I'm a sensitive eater (not picky) as I've strong sensory sensitivity. I get nauseous easily if I eat or smell something I don't like.
  • My wife is totally opposite. Half of the times, she tries something new and orders things just by reading their names. Mostly, she doesn't even know how her order looks like. And mostly, the food she tries isn't good as our comfort food. So after 2-4 bites, she asks me to split and share each other's food. I always hesitate doing that due to my different food habits as mentioned above.
  • She's aware of my nature but asks me to share anyways. It's been 3 times in a row, the food she ordered came out totally bad and I had to give up on half of my food to compensate it, as usual. Being fed up, recently I clearly told her that I won't be sharing food from now and whatever she orders, it's all upto her even if it doesn't come out good. She agreed in a low voice.
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  • Now yesterday, the same thing happened again and she casually made the same gesture of sharing food. I said no, mentioning our recent talk about it. She had to finish it all, it spoiled her mood and got passive agressive the rest of the evening AITA
  • Commenters agreed that she needed to reevaluate.

    saddiebabbie NTA. I'd be super annoyed by that. Tell her you can only split if you order two dishes you both like or she can order a backup one (and pay for it herself) if she needs to try something new every time.
  • AncientElderberry737 Your wife sounds like a right royal pain.
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  • Silver_Mind_7441 NTA. My husband is one who orders comfort food. I try new things (why have spaghetti at an Italian place when we can have it at home). The only thing is that even if I don't like what I got, I eat it. I might not finish my plate but I don't take from someone else. Please OP, stop sharing with her. Tell her she is an adult and as such, can deal with the consequences of ordering something new.
  • analogascension NTA. She's an adult, and not behaving like one. Being passive aggressive about it is also very childish. She's not respecting you or caring for your feelings and needs anywhere near as close to as she's expecting you to do for her.
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  • miraschimmel Nope. Not the asshole. Spouse and I have been married 15 years and don't share food unless the other offers. And normally it's along the lines of "Hey this is really good. Wanna try a bite?" My spouse is the adventurous eater and I'm the comfort food eater. If it's truly terrible they will just order something else. But mostly they tough it out and know better for next time.
  • DragOns_Shadow NTA. sounds like a dumb situation. Me and my husband like to split meals when we go out as we get to so rarely. But it is always, Always a negotiation on what to get, so that we're both happy. If we can't agree (hardly ever happens) then we each pick our own dish and share a dessert
  • Alice-003 NTA. You set a boundary, she agreed to it, then ignored it the next time because she assumed you'd cave. That's not about food anymore, that's about respecting what you already discussed. You're not her backup meal plan
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  • Beneficial-Sort4795 NTA. What a ridiculous waste of money. She might as well order nothing, you order two of what you get and she just eat that. Even little kids aren't allowed to waste food and money like this. Have you ever asked her why she's so invested in this ridiculously wasteful habit that requires you to go partially hungry? Its very obvious she sees your food as the backup for when she orders poorly. And this may even be some goofy 'test of caring/love' that is, again, a huge waste of
  • meteors77 NTA. This would annoy the shit out of me.
  • Black_Whisper I, as your wife, like to try out new dishes as often as possible. However, I also either take something I know I like or agree with my partner beforehand to split a more normal dish with me. You made clear you don't want to share NTA.
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